Hold a pendulum in one hand, high up and tightly to any side — then let go — see its swing.
It will swing to the other end; higher possibly than the end you held it at — and then it swings back and then goes back again — and you see this furious swing till eventually it settles down and stops mid point — the point of balance.
Similarly, if you have held yourself tightly in emotional and mental structure; tightly wound up either about your beliefs or your feelings; when you let go — you are going to swing — to the other end and other extreme.
This is a very important aspect to know when you begin self work.
Lets take an example: lets say you have an issue with control.You are a control freak — the day you let go — you will crave and seek freedom — and possibly run away from all structure.
The higher and tighter the pendulum is held on one end; the more dramatic its swing to the other end.
So in your shifts and in letting go you might swing to the extreme of where you were.
It is important to remember this is just a swing. A natural occurrence of being tightly wound up on the other end.
What many of us do is when we reach the other end — we think ahh! We have changed and so we hold onto the other end believing that to be the better end.
So in this case we might say control is one end and the other end is freedom.
Grass is always greener on the other side. Well, not necessarily so.
The key here is that we were meant to shift out of the resonance of ‘control’. Now having moved to another end of the spectrum unfortunately you are still in the spectrum just another end of it. The spectrum of control is still our resonance even though it might be expressed in a manner we feel is better suited to us.
So even if we are structureless – we are still exhibiting an alternate expression of control. It is in experiencing the state of balance that we are able to neither be only controlling or only structureless. It is about embracing both aspects – knowing each has its own value and in merging the two; in bringing them together, you experience the beautiful alchemy of the two ends of the spectrum providing you its highest expression.
When you let go of both ends you begin to settle into your own balance and ease.
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